Tuesday 30th January 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 139
Title: The Most Important Choice You Can Make In 2018 - Choose Family Relationship
Matt (not real name) and I
were Primary School Class Mates and very friendly. We were family friends so to
say but then the Nigeria - Biafra civil war came and we had to run for our dear
lives to our respective villages. Our paths diverged and never crossed again
until last December.
His name had always been
in my mind and so I have been searching the internet with that name to see if I
could trace and track him and last June, facebook made it possible (I think he
was just coming on the giant social medium because I identified him not by his
picture but by the name and I was one of his few facebook friends as at that
time)
We have been chatting
since then and making plans to meet and finally last December that became
possible.
When we finally saw each
other again, it was a reunion of some sorts but the changes were quite obvious,
we had moved from boys of yesteryears to almost grand fathers of today.
We spent loads of time
catching up with the news of how we have lived our lives so far. His parents
are late just like mine but his siblings are all around just like mine.
In the course of our chit
chats, he dropped the bombshell on me - Doc he said, I am happy to finally meet
you again after more than 51 years and I am also happy to know that you are a
Medical Doctor. I just want to let you know that I have a terminal disease and
at any point from now, I might be gone to the land of no return.
Was I shocked?
Well as a Medical Doctor,
I have often times been involved in breaking the "bad news" of death
or cancer or other such dangerous diseases to patients and their relatives, so
I was not particularly shocked at the announcement he made to me but what
really shocked me was the ease with which he gave me the information.
Like he has accepted his
fate and is prepared to meet his maker - it shocked me!!
How many persons are able
to come to accept the truth of their own death and actually own it up?
Then he dropped another
bombshell
"I'm happier now than
ever", he said.
How can one be happy
knowing that they are dying from cancer? and there's just nothing they can do
to help themselves?
And he continued, "I
don't do ANYTHING I don't want to do", he said.
Then he gave me the lesson
of that meeting
While I was active and
working, I took my job like my 1st wife, I neglected my immediate family to the
point that I nearly lost my wife to divorce; I thought my work mates and
colleagues were my real friends, I thought that hanging out with those friends
at weekends was enjoyment; I thought that they would be there for me when I
needed them most; but I was mistaken.
One thing I realized, he
said: Family relationships are the ONLY important thing in the world.
Make your wife your best
friend, make your children your best friends because when the chips are down,
they are the ones who would take care of you when everyone else is on the
outside looking in
When I was retired because
of infrequency at my work place, I tried getting across to my colleagues in the
Office but no one was willing to help me carry the cross. I was left in the
lurch and I suffered terribly. It was my wife and my children that gave me the
courage to continue to live and have been by my side ever since then. I cannot
change the past, but I am taking every opportunity of the present to make
amends for the past.
Now I choose to be with
people I like and not be around people I don't like.
At any moment in the day I
am exactly where I want to be and with who I want to be.
And. he said, because of
this, I am always happy. I know that every day I will be doing the things I
want to do.
I have no need any longer
for fair weather friends because I am back to my root, where I should not have
left void in the first place.
And what else is there for
me to worry about? I don't care about any potential accomplishments, or goals,
or anything artificial.
I am now waiting for the
day of death but I am not just sitting idly by and waiting, I am also getting
involved in therapies as recommended by my Physicians and being all lovey dovey
with my family - in these past years, they are the best thing that have
happened to me and if and when I die, I would die a satisfied and happy man.
Relationships are
important. Time is important.
And my happiness is 100% complete
now because it is my choice.
Was I humbled by this
"short teaching on the importance of family relationships?"
Yes, I really was and this
year 2018, I have declared it my family rejuvenation year.
How about you?
What lesson are you taking away from this my encounter with my friend from the
60s?
You can share that with
me.
Until I come your way
again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst
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