Saturday 6th
January 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 124
Title: Decide Today
Why You Will Live
Today
we are concluding on the 4 important decisions any one serious about making
2018 a far better year than he or she has ever lived should be taking and
implementing. 3 days ago we discussed the first of them "Decide Today Who
You Will Be In 2018; 2 days ago we discussed the second of them "Decide Today
How You Will Live in 2018; yesterday we discussed "Decide Today What You
Will Give in 2018; and today we are discussing "Decide Today Why You Will
Live in 2018"; if you have not read the texts or listened to the podcast
of the previous episodes, kindly do so.
Why
Knowing Your “Why” Is Your Greatest Tool for Success
Wow,
this is hard! Did I really sign up for this? I am about to throw in the towel! Are these the questions keeping
you up at night as you push yourself along your life's journey? Unfortunately, this happens at all stages. We
live in a noisy and competitive world and maintaining the status quo is no
longer accepted. Which means we are constantly having to change directions and
conquer doubts. Today more startups, apps, and ideas are entering into the
marketplace than ever before, and it’s getting tougher and tougher to get the
attention of your target audience. One day you’re on an extreme high and the
next you find it hard to pick up the phone after a tough defeat. But what keeps
us pushing even when all seems lost and traction is limited? Insanity? A
short-term memory?
Not
really, but kind of! If you find yourself able to push forward in spite of
never-ending setbacks, then you have probably been able to identify your strong
“why”. There are several kinds of whys, such as the “why you want to get that
next degree.” But your strongest Why is the reason that you will
continue to push for that same degree even when the previous attempts have
failed. Your strong “why” is the reason you continue to push when validation
comes few and far between.
Why
your “why” is so important.
Having
a strong “why” is what keeps you in the fight when everyone else quits. A
strong “why” is what motivates your team when all seems lost. A strong “why” is
the reason you will succeed while everyone else fails. In the back of your
mind, you might have a vague understanding of your own why But clearly
defining and identifying this why is crucial for long-term success. So
how do you define your “why”? Or as I would say, your “internal motivator:
Seven-whys deep.”
Let’s
use a common goal like weight loss or getting fit. We all know at the start of
each year millions of newly motivated resolutioners flock to the gym with hopes
of changing their lifestyle and decreasing waistlines. Most of these
individuals come face to face with the confining realities of their prior
lifestyle, and remember why they didn’t workout in the first place.
“There
are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we
discover why.” – William Barclay
Most
individuals fail to succeed in their New Year's Resolutions Goals, not
because they lack commitment, but rather their “why” was too
superficial. They didn’t dig deep enough or ask enough “why’s” to keep
them pushing when life got in the way.
So
what does this look like in application? Where do most fall off when it comes
to the motivation wagon? When thinking about your goal, your weight loss journey, or even
taking the entrepreneurship leap, first ask yourself “why do I want this?”
Example:
Person
1: I want to lose 10 pounds (this is where most people stop)
Person
2: Great! Why?
Person
1: Umm…(uncomfortable silence) Because I do!
Person
2: OK, what will losing 10 pounds do for you?
Person
1: Well it will help me fit into those jeans I used to fit into years ago.
Person
2: Great! So what will fitting in those jeans do for you?
Person
1: It will make me feel sexy!
Person
2: Great! What will feeling sexy do for you?
Person
1: Then Tyler (or insert any name here) will like me.
Person
2: Great! What will…?(I think you get my point.)
So,
for Person 1, working out to get Tyler to notice her is what will get her to
wake up at 5AM in the morning, change her eating habits, and get her on the
right track towards her decreased waistline. Now, I know I will get hate mail from people saying, “That’s a
superficial why!” Really!
See,
the thing is I never told you your “why” had to be altruistic or even make much
sense. The only purpose of defining your “why” is to help you, or push you,
when you are facing tough challenges or when you feel like quitting.
“He
who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
Your
why is your motivator.
Sometimes
the worst thing you can do for someone is to try to rationalize and justify
their “why” for them. To them, their “why” is their motivator, their
nonexistent exit strategy, their reason to continue when the whole world tells
them to quit.
I
know some people's whys may sound crazy, but to them it makes perfect sense.
For me, no matter what, I really only hear the negative because it motivates me
to prove people wrong. Is it really not good enough?
Maybe…
Is
my reasoning healthy? Probably not. But who cares as it keeps me pushing day
and night to exceed my expectations from the day before. I am motivated by
negative reinforcement over positive. I guess it’s the athlete in me.
For
you though, whatever pushes you to move through the noise and past the struggle
is the strongest weapon in your arsenal. The strong “why” will be the reason
you think of alternative solutions instead of throwing in the towel.
Important
Tip: Accept that your strong “why” may lose its effect and no longer keep you
motivated. Don’t worry, that’s normal. If that ever happens, go back to the
drawing board and restart the multi-level why process to redefine your internal
motivation.
Memorize
it, write it down and pin it to your dashboard or somewhere else you will see
it regularly. This simple task will help you in business, fitness, or in any
goal you wish to pursue. Remember, your “why” is a deadly weapon. Use it
wisely!
Until I come your way
again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst
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