Thursday 22nd February 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
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#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 162
Title: 13 Things
Mentally Strong People Avoid
Mentally strong people
have healthy habits and do everything they can to avoid misery
They manage their emotions, thoughts, and
behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.
We can take yoga classes or work out or run, but
when it comes down to it, mental strength is our biggest limiting factor.
We're very self aware of our weaknesses, but
instead of dealing with it head on, we just try to change things externally, on
the surface level.
If we
can't commit to something, we go from one thing to another thing hoping maybe
this time we can engage, instead of trying to make our mindset better at being
committed.
To be healthy and successful, you need key
characteristics - tenacity, grit, optimism, resilience, and an unfailing
ability to deal with failure and convert it to the positive.
There are many articles about what successful
people do, what about the things they avoid?
Amy
Morin, a Psychotherapist and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker compiled a
list I'd like to share along with my thoughts.
Check out these things that mentally strong
people DON'T DO so that you too can become more mentally strong:
1. Waste
Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling
sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them.
Instead,
they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn't
always easy or fair.
They
emerge from trying circumstances with self awareness and lessons learned to
move forward.
2. Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and
they don’t give others the power to make them feel small or bad.
They
understand they're in control over their actions and emotions.
Their
strength comes from their ability to manage the way they respond.
3. Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people embrace change and
welcome challenge.
Complacency
and stagnation, not the unknown is their biggest fear.
They are
flexible and understand that change is inevitable and believe in their
abilities to adapt.
4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person
complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams.
Instead,
they focus on what they can control in their lives.
They
recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their own response
and attitude.
5. Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t
need to please everyone all the time.
They’re
not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary.
They also
don't go out of their way to dis-please others out of spite or to create an
image of independence and strength and rebellion (act out).
They
strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they
didn't make them happy.
They will
navigate the situation with grace.
6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but
don’t mind taking calculated risks.
Mentally
strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big
decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they
take action.
Most of
all they don't attempt to avoid risk because they understand that is
impossible.
They
develop risk management skills not risk avoidance skills.
They
aren't controlled by impulse or emotion, but rather intellect.
7. Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling
on the past and wishing things could be different.
They
acknowledge their past and can say what they've learned from it.
However,
they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days
of the past.
Instead,
they live for the present and plan for the future.
They think in present tense.
8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
They accept responsibility for their behavior
and learn from their past mistakes.
As a
result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over while hoping for
a different better outcome - that would be insanity.
Instead,
they move on and make better decisions in the future.
They self
reflect to create accurate and better responses.
They ask
themselves, "how has that been working out?" If it hasn't been
working out well, they change it, they don't keep doing the same thing over and
over again.
9. Resent Other People’s Success
A "frenemy" is a friend who is also an
enemy. They are close with you until you gain success, then they feel betrayed
and resentful.
Mentally
strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life.
They
don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them.
Instead,
they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work
hard for their own chance at success.
Mentally
strong people eliminate the frenemies from their lives and avoid being one.
10. Give Up After the Failure
Every failure is a chance to improve.
Mentally
strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up.
Every failure is a chance to learn things they
didn't know already.
In a
scientific experiment, failure is a part of the process, to test theories, and
to collect data.
If an
experiment worked on the first try without failure, there isn't much to learn.
Scientists
rely on lots and lots of failure, as a process of elimination.
Gamers also
rely on the same process to problem solve, as do machines (artificial
intelligence and machine learning), as do children.
Giving up
after failure is illogical and goes against the mechanisms of growth.
Your
ability to grow, succeed, be happy is directly related to your ability to deal
with failure.
This is
called resilience.
Depression
is the inability to deal with changes, situations, and failures.
11. Fear
Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone
and they don’t fear silence.
They
aren't afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be
productive.
They
enjoy their own company and aren't dependent on others for companionship and
entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.
They
don't need a partner to start a business, a buddy to work out with, a friend to
eat with.
If those
things become available, they appreciate it as a perk not a necessity.
Independence, not co-dependence.
12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything
They don’t feel entitled to things in life.
They
weren't born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the
world must give them something.
Instead,
they look for opportunities based on their own merits, at every stage.
They
never feel like they paid their dues, and now their work is done.
They
don't get a sales job and ask their employer how big of a sales bonus they can
hit in six months or ask their trainer how much weight they can lose in two
weeks.
They
understand that it is all earned by their own effort and effectiveness.
13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their
health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t
expect immediate results.
Instead,
they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand
that real change takes time.
They are
in it for the long haul and have something many lack, "long staying
power."
So, there
you have them. If you are not mentally strong yet, then you just need to
appropriate these qualities into your life to begin your new life journey and
if you are already mentally strong, check out if you have all these qualities
in your life already.
Until I come your way
again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst
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