Tuesday 13th March 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 181
Title: Have You
Given Yourself A Fair Chance To Change And Grow?
Most people suffer in
their present because of an event that happened in their past.
This event could be a
failed expectation, a failed relationship, a betrayal by a trusted friend or
even sibling, an accidental loss of a parent or close friend, an orchestrated
blackmail and so on.
Each time they come close
to any "event" in the present that reminds them of the past, they
become moody and their countenance changes, they might even enter into a state of verbal diarrhea to say it all out
with the bitterness that wells up in their mind and head.
All these happen because
the persons have neither forgotten nor forgiven. They still carry the pains
from their past deep in their unconscious mind and react the way they do when
circumstances and situations remind them of the past as they would always do.
They simply have REFUSED
to let go of the pain from the past in order to live in the present as a guide
for the future
It is important to remind
ourselves that if somebody is working on
themselves and changing for the better, it’s unnecessary to keep bringing up
their past.
People can change and
grow. You know this is true.
But, have you given yourself a fair chance to change and grow, too?
Have you consciously loosened your grip on everything that’s behind you, so you
can step forward again with grace?
Have you willingly let go
of all the hurts and the pains from the past in order to pick up the blessings
of the now?
If your answer is in the negative, you aren’t alone.
I know exactly how you
feel. I’ve been there myself, and I know dozens of others in the same boat.
At times, we all fall
victim to our attachments. And sometimes we don’t even realize we’re blocking
our own present blessings by holding on to the past.
Do your best to realize
this right now…
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But in the end, nothing is as painful as
staying stuck somewhere in the past.
Remind yourself of a powerful lesson … a vital truth:
You can have a heartbreaking story from
the past, without letting it rule your present.
In the present moment, we all have some kind of pain: anger, sadness,
frustration, disappointment, regret, etc.
Notice this pain within yourself, watch it closely, and see that it’s caused by
whatever story you have in your head about what happened in the past (either in
the recent past or in the distant past).
Your mind might insist
that the pain you feel is caused by what happened (not by the story in your
head about it), but what happened in the past is NOT happening right now. It’s
over. It has passed.
But the pain is still
happening right now because of the story you’ve been subconsciously telling
yourself about that past incident.
Note that “story” does not mean “fake story.” It also does not mean “true
story.”
The word “story” in the
context of your self-evaluation doesn’t have to imply true or false, positive
or negative, or any other kind of forceful judgment call.
It’s simply a process
that’s happening inside your head:
You are remembering
something that happened.
You subconsciously
perceive yourself as a victim of this incident.
Your memory of what happened
causes a strong emotion in you.
So just notice what story
you have, without judging it, and without judging yourself.
It’s natural to have a
story; we all have stories. See yours for what it is. And see that it’s causing
you pain. Then take a deep breath, and another and another and then LET THEM
ALL GO
Just like anything else in
the world, it is a personal choice any ways
Inner peace begins the moment you take
these deep breaths and choose not to allow the past to rule your present
thoughts and emotions.
But, as I'm sure you are aware, that's sometimes much easier said than done.
Letting go and responding better in the present takes guidance and practice.
I assure you, it’s not too late. You aren't behind. You’re exactly where you
need to be.
Seriously, you are at the
forefront of the rest of your life! At the end of it, let there be no excuses,
no explanations, and no regrets.
You can let go and make
adjustments by the end of 2018 that will help you feel better, think more
clearly and reap bountifully the good fruits of life
Until I come your way
again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst
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