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Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First - Episode 193/Mantra To Stop You From Taking Things Personally





Sunday                          25th March 2018

Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First

Hello and welcome to #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 193

Title:          One Mantra That Will Stop You From Taking Things Personally

Each day comes with its own load of toxicity, whether in situations or at occasions or in persons even those very close to us.
And because most of us are hard wired to be dependent on other people's opinions of us, we tend to take things personally even when the intention is not to insult, assault or hurt us.
People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.
That is the truth. Let it sink in.
What people say and do to you is much more about them, than you. 
Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them and how they view the world.
Now, I’m not suggesting we should be self-indulged narcissists and ignore all the opinions and commentary we receive from others.
In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinions of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
The underlying key is to...
Watch Your Response
That is the MANTRA that will save you from taking to mind whatever anyone else does to you or says about you.
Still others start to feel sorry for themselves… and victimized… and leave thinking: “Why can’t other people behave better?”
Responses like these are not healthy or helpful.
And you’re not alone. We all make this mistake sometimes.
If someone does something we disagree with, we tend to interpret this as a personal attack...
Some people even think life itself is personally against them. But the truth is, almost nothing in life is personal – things happen, or they don’t, and it’s rarely all about anyone specifically.
People have emotional issues they’re dealing with, and it makes them defiant, rude, and thoughtless sometimes.
In any case, you can learn not to interpret their behaviors as personal attacks, and instead see them as non-personal encounters (like a dog barking in the distance, or a bumblebee buzzing by) that you can either respond to with a peaceful mindset, or not respond to at all.
Here’s what you need to remember and repeat to yourself…
You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
Yes, there is an incredible amount of freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s behaviors.
The way people treat you is their problem, how you react is yours.
When you THINK BETTER, you LIVE BETTER!
Truth be told, that’s exactly why those who have realized that life is too short to be concerned about things that do not add value to living it have made the decision to take things as they come. Nothing too personal except of course it is very personal
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People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences.
I’m simply saying that incredible amounts of hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives come directly from our tendency to take things personally.

When something stressful happens in a social situation, what is your response?
Some people jump right into action – but oftentimes immediate action can be harmful.
Others get angry, or sad.
In fact, whenever your response lacks a mindful level of acceptance you’re likely taking things too personally.

Our children don’t clean their rooms? They are purposely defying us!
Our significant other doesn’t show affection? They must not care about us as much as they should!
Our coworkers act inconsiderately at work? They must hate us!
Someone hurts us? Everyone must be out to get us!
They are doing the best they can, or they’re not even aware of their issues.


You too can decide to ride high emotionally over and above all those who you think hold one thing or the other against you.

Just remember, it is not about you, it's all about them

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