Friday 9th March 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
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#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 177
Title: The Radical
Truths Every Young Person Should Know
Growing
up is not an easy task at all. You are buffeted on all sides by the good, the
bad and the ugly and depending on who is doing the leading, you might be led
down the wrong path.
You
have to make decisions based on what you see and hear and not necessarily what
you think because as a young person you are not allowed to think but just to
obey and follow orders.
But
if you know and realize early that the life you have is yours to live and that
no person shall answer your questions for you on the last day, then the earlier
you learn to take full responsibility for your life, the better and that early
could be as early as 16 years of age.
I
here present to you some of the radical truths you ought to know while young so
that it will guide you into a meaningful adulthood.
They
helped me a great deal
1. Don’t be shy.
Anyone who really wants to
conquer the world needs to be bold and brave, there's no room for shyness.
You must learn to look at
anyone in the face while talking to or with them, you must be able to have an
eyeball to eyeball encounter with any adversary.
Being shy robs you of your
dignity, your self esteem and makes you less confident in yourself and your
abilities to conquer.
If
you tend to be shy, try your best to overcome it. Take it a step at a time, but
work at it.
It
is a gift to get to know new people, especially those who are different from
you in some way, culturally, ethnically, religiously.
Pushing
yourself out of your comfort zone may be painful for a time, but the benefits
are everlasting.
2. Accept
yourself and Celebrate your strengths.
No
matter your colour, no matter your height, no matter your physical condition,
no matter your size, no matter anything else, you are not an accident of birth
or that of nature. God designed you in His Very Own Image and Likeness and He
brought you into the world to be His Representative.
You
are God's own Ambassador on earth. After God moulded and created you, He took a
second look at you and declared "s/he is very good", if God had
declared you "very good" no other being can say anything different
about you and even if they say, give no heed to their rantings, listen only to
the Voice of God right there in your head and telling you that you are okay.
Don't
let anyone make you feel inferior, don't allow any group of persons make you
develop an inferiority complex. God is Superior to all, you are made in His
Likeness, you are also a god, so develop your superiority over those who think
they can push you down.
“We are much better collectors of our shortcomings
than our strengths,” according to Dr. Ryan Howes, a Psychologist in Pasadena,
California.
Howes
suggests: “Make a list of all the hardships you’ve overcome, all the goals
you’ve accomplished, all the connections you’ve made, and all the lives you’ve
touched for the better. Keep it close by, review it frequently, and add to it
often.”
3. Silence
your inner critic.
There
is a voice in you that shouts at you when you have gone wrong on something,
when you have made an unintentional mistake, it berates you, it blames you and
then it keeps you in check so that you make no further moves in order to avoid
making more mistakes. That voice is not yours, it does not belong to you. That
voice is your INNER CRITIC, it was infused in you as you were growing up, by
the shouts of your parents and guardians, the caution of your relatives
(uncles, aunties and all that), the punishment of your Teachers; they put that
voice in you to bring the fear of whatever to bear on and in you.
Many
people equate their inner critic with a voice of reason.
They
think their inner critic is simply speaking the truth.
But
if you wouldn’t say it to a loved one, it’s not honesty or sincerity. It’s
unwarranted — and harsh — judgment.
If
you’re working on something and all of a sudden you start questioning yourself,
if you feel your energy decreasing, if you’re getting stuck, bored, or tired,
recognize the inner critic is speaking to you.
Listen,
but don’t take his words to heart.
See
him so that he doesn’t hang out in a distant corner manipulating you from
above.
Cultivate
the voice of reason that is also built right inside of you, make friends with
it, don't rationalize it away so that when your inner critic comes knocking,
send the voice of reason to open the door for him and then deal squarely with
him.
You
are sent into this world to conquer it and subdue it and have dominion over all
things, don't allow yourself to be dissuaded from pursuing that goal.
4. Follow
your curiosity and you will find a career you love.
All
the things that have been invented since the time of creation have come to be
because someone or some group of persons were curious enough to want to find
out the answers to two basic questions
a. What will happen if "this" is
done like this?
b. What will happen if "this" is
not done like this?
Nothing
new had ever been invented or created without having been the subject of
someone's curiosity.
Even
though you may not have a clear vision for your career, you are probably
curious about things which may or may not be obvious to you.
It’s
important to follow your curiosity and uncover your less obvious interests.
The
reason it’s important is that those interests tap into your unique motivations
that separate you from others.
Pursuing
them sets you on the path of unlocking who you are and your creativity.
5. Don’t
Make Money Your Main Focus.
Money
is good, no doubt about it the Good Book had to say it - "money is a
defence" and "money answereth all things" - so money is good and
the man who owns it is in good company and also a good companion.
However,
there are many things money cannot buy and so the constant hunt for more money,
eternally chasing the next raise, measuring yourself against the number on your
paycheck is no way to run a career, and no way to live a work life.
Sacrificing
happiness at work for more money is a terrible trade – one that you will end up
regretting.
Make
money alright, establish multiple streams of income, great but live the life
you are here to live, have the experiences you are required to have; when you
leave here for the next plain, you don't know how it will be like, you may
never be conscious of anything else; so while you still have the opportunity to
live, LIVE.
6. Focus on a healthy lifestyle.
Over
90 percent of all diseases are related to lifestyle choices, so it may shock
you into realizing that rest, exercise, nutrition, and relationships are the
pillars of healthy living.
Schedule
rest and recreation regularly. The older you get, the more you’ll understand
why.
7. Don’t be a people pleaser.
Don't
be a people pleaser, it's not worth it because it is impossible to please all
the people all the time.
You
could please someone all the time, you could please some people all the time
but to please everyone all the time, nah, rule it out.
People
pleasing tendencies can create stress and unhappiness.
If
at any point you’ve already thought about saying “no” to something, there’s
probably merit for consideration.
Plus,
every time you agree to do something you do not believe is right, or want to
do, it beats you up mentally and once you get the hang of not automatically
saying ‘yes, you’re on your way to learning to say ‘no’ in a skillful and firm
manner.
You’ll
be delighted at how doing this will free up your schedule and energy to do
things that you really want to pursue.
8. Stop watching so much TV and read more.
Life is short, and there are far too many activities that are
more important and fulfilling than sitting in front of a television for hours
on end.
That’s not to suggest you should stop watching TV altogether.
Some people watch up to 6 hours of TV each day.
When you do the math, it’s rather shocking. Six hours per day
adds up to 2190 hours over the course of a year, which equates to 91 days.
THREE MONTHS! per year. Sitting in front of a television. Hypnotized.
You’re never going to feel productive and empowered sitting
in front of the television.
9. Be
grateful.
Gratitude
really helps us connect to other people.
Expressing
gratitude has also been proven to generate more optimism.
According
to research published by the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill the
little things and expressing “everyday” gratitude gave a romantic relationship
a better shot of surviving.
The
study also found that daily gratitude interactions increased relationship connection
and overall satisfaction for both men and women.
10. Give
back and Volunteer in your Community.
There’s
nothing more fulfilling than realizing how much of an impact a volunteer can
make.
Just
a few hours of help can turn into a lifetime of opportunity, which is one of
the greatest benefits of volunteering.
Plus,
volunteer opportunities often allow people to try new activities or learn new
skills
Until I come your way
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