Saturday 17th February 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 157
Title: Stop Doing These
And Be Successful
Watching an athlete’s
backstory is probably my favorite part of the Olympics.
I got chills seeing Chloe
Kim win the gold the other day – so inspiring what she’s accomplished and what
she’s been through to get to this point.
Most competitive athletes know
much about intense training sessions, overcoming injuries, and pushing their bodies
to the absolute limit. But in the end it’s all worth it when they reach their goal and their hard work pays off.
It makes me think about
sports psychology and how the athlete mentality can apply to other areas of our
life.
Our performance on and off
the field is directly related to our state of mind.
The most successful
athletes aren’t necessarily the most talented – they are the ones who have a
strong work ethic, positive attitude, and don’t let fear stop them from
reaching their full potential.
This concept also applies
to the workplace: the most valuable employees aren’t necessarily the most
talented. They’re the ones who are hard-working, passionate, and positive. It’s
these people who are also the most successful.
When it comes to achieving
success, you may be holding yourself back without even realizing it.
Here are seven things you
need to stop doing to be successful:
1. Stop
Comparing Yourself To Other People
“Comparison is the death
of joy.” – Mark Twain
First, it’s important to
understand there’s a fine line between admiration and idealization.
There’s nothing wrong with
looking at someone else’s success as a way to inspire you.
That’s healthy comparison.
For example, when I think
about bestselling authors, I’m not envious (okay, maybe a little), but I admire
their accomplishments and look at their success as a goal.
I don’t beat myself up
because I haven’t written a bestseller at this point in my life.
The problem arises when
comparison leads to feelings of unworthiness – when we compare ourselves to
others who we perceive as having more and doing more, this is what makes us
feel like we’re coming up short.
The sad truth is that when
we have this mentality we end up chasing things (beauty, money, fame) that
won’t bring us happiness in the long run.
Focus on your progress and
make sure your yardstick of success is of your own making, and not society’s
expectations.
2. Stop
Chasing Perfection
“When you aim for
perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.” – Geoffrey F. Fischer
Do you feel like you’re
never satisfied with your performance? Are you obsessed with being the best?
Perfectionists often have
a distorted view of reality, setting their sights too high and setting
themselves up for failure.
While it’s good to strive
for excellence, perfectionists often take it one step too far – spending too
much time on one task, which ultimately makes them less productive.
It’s in our failures, not
our successes, that we learn the most about ourselves. If we’re not willing to
accept our weaknesses, we will never work to improve those areas, and won’t
grow as people.
3. Stop
Saying “Yes” To Everyone About Everything
“When you say ‘yes’ to
others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” -Paulo Coehlo
Research shows that being a people pleaser leads to
higher levels of stress, anxiety, and burnout.
“We live under this
misconception that saying ‘yes,’ being available, always at the ready for other
people, makes us a better person, but in fact it does quite the opposite,”
according to Susan Newman, social psychologist and author of The Book of
No.
Saying “no” doesn’t mean
you’re being selfish. It means you respect yourself.
By setting boundaries and
standing up for your beliefs, others will respect you as a result.
4. Stop
Spending Time With Negative People
“You are the average of
the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
I had a friend several years
ago who LOVED to vent. We would sit for hours over a bottle of wine and he
complained about everything going wrong in his life.
As his friend, of course I
wanted to help him, but it got to a point when I started to feel like his
therapist and I wasn't yet a Doctor then.
His negative energy left
me emotionally drained.
Not surprisingly, the
moment I decided to take a step back and distance myself, I started to feel
better.
Many of us don’t realize
that who we spend time with influences and shapes who we become.
Surround yourself with
people who bring out the best in you.
5. Stop
overthinking
“Worrying about how things
might go wrong does not help things to go right.” – Karen Salmansohn
Do you know our brains
produce as many as 70,000 thoughts each and every day? Out of those 70,000
thoughts, 80% - 90% are negative.
While it may be human
nature to dwell on the negative, you do in fact have control over what you
choose to focus on.
Thoughts only have as much
power as you give them.
When it comes to combating
negative thinking, I find that visualization is an extremely effective
technique. Relating back to the Olympic mindset, research shows that
visualization boosts athletic performance not only by improving concentration
and motivation, but also reduces anxiety and fear.
6. Stop
Putting Yourself Down
“What you think you
become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create.” – Buddha
No one judges you more
than you judge yourself.
Let go of self-criticism.
When you feel insecurity
and doubt creeping into your thoughts, shift your focus to something more
positive and productive.
Ever heard, “Energy flows
where attention goes”?
It’s not a coincidence
that when you’re in a happy, positive state of mind more good things naturally
start coming into your life.
The same is true if you
choose to focus on what’s going wrong and what’s lacking – you will always be
unhappy, always wanting more.
7. Stop
Being Afraid Of Change
“It is not the strongest
of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the
one that is most adaptable to change.” -Charles Darwin
The fear of leaving our
comfort zone for unfamiliar territory causes many of us to stay trapped in a
life we don’t want.
But before you know it,
next week turns into next year, and you are in the same exact place.
The truth is, we have no
idea what the future holds, but we won’t reach our end goal until we take the
first step forward.
Until I come your way
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