Saturday 24th
February 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 164
Title: Signs Indicating
That It’s Time To Let Go
Holding
on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger
and happier.
Sometimes,
we find it difficult to let go, very difficult indeed due mainly to the fact
that we may have invested a lot of energy and other resources in that which seemed
not to be working and most of these times, we cling to hope that things would
turn out to be better.
If
you have been hoping against hope that things would be better and they are not;
if you have been holding on hoping that
there would be a turn around and it is taking too long and too much toll on
your psyche; if you have been waiting for promised change and it is not coming
forth and your hope has waned completely, then it is time to consider letting
go.
Here
are ten signs to know that it’s time to let go and seriously consider it:
1. Someone
Expects You To Be Someone You’re Not. –
You
are willing to give that relationship a chance, you would go to any length to
make it work but your partner wants you to be someone else.
S/he
mirrors you against someone who is the opposite of you, you should be wise
enough to know that they don't have your best interests at heart.
Don’t
change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.
Because
it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered
identity.
It’s
easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than
it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.
2. A
Person’s Actions Don’t Match Their Words. –
Over
time you have observed that s/he says one thing and does exactly the opposite,
and each time they apologize and you forgive because you believe as it is
popularly said that to err is human and to forgive divine, but for how long
will you allow yourself to be taken for a ride?
It
is true that everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to
tomorrow.
But
if someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently
inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to
let them go.
It’s
always better to be alone than to be in bad company.
True
friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by
distance, and unchangeable by time.
Don’t
listen to what people say; watch what they do.
Your
true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.
3. You
Catch Yourself Forcing Someone To Love You. –
In
every love affair, someone must of course take the lead and be the one that
might have to love more.
But
for the love not to be a one-sided affair, it has to be mutual and freely given.
However
let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us. If you are the one
giving all the love and the other person is doing all the receiving, that is
not love at all, it is infatuation.
And
that is an evidence that they don't love you at all for if they do, they would
match you up in a 50:50 love.
You
can't force anyone to love you, either they do or they don't no matter what you
do for them and that is the raw truth.
We
shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love
is all about – freedom.
However,
the end of one love affair or even several love affairs is definitely not the
end of life.
It
should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a
reason, but never leaves without a lesson.
If
someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.
Anyone
can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone
really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.
Sometimes
it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth
the wait.
4. An
Intimate Relationship Is Based Strictly On Physical Attraction. –
Being
beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how
others perceive you at a single glance.
It’s
about what you live for.
It’s
about what defines you.
It’s
about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.
It’s
about being who you are and living out your life honestly. It’s about
those little quirks that make you, you.
People
who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t
stay by your side forever.
But
the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.
If
the first comment a guy makes about you is "oh babe you are so so
beautiful and the next thing he wants to do is take you to bed, if your brain
is sitting squarely in your head, you would know that is not love and don't
just start at all.
This
also applies to any girl who meets a guy, tells him how handsome he is and then
just wants to jump into his bed.
Love
is not a one night stand because most one night stands end up in broken
heartedness and no one really knows where broken hearts go to when they get
broken
5. Someone
Continuously Breaks Your Trust. –
Love
means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.
When
you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one
of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.
Either
way there’s a positive outcome.
Either
you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the
opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.
In
the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for
you. And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.
6. Someone
Continuously Overlooks Your Worth. –
If
someone continuously belittles you, then s/he does not know your worth and if
you can't get them to respect you for who you are, then it's time to let go.
When
you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of
your soul that you’ll never get back.
There
comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people.
If
someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.
Sometimes
you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the
way you care for them. Let them leave your life quietly.
Letting
go is oftentimes easier than holding on.
We
think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do.
Then
we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”
7. You
Are Never Given A Chance To Speak Your Mind. –
Sometimes
an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.
The
argument that saves a relationship is the one in which both partners DISCUSS
and DIALOGUE and not a non-stop MONOLOGUE.
If
you are in a relationship where you are always hushed down when you want to
speak your mind or you work at some place where you are always told what to do
and your opinion is never asked and even when you want to say something, you
are asked to shut up, it is time to take a second look at it all.
Speak
up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets. Life is not about
making others happy. Life is about being honest and sharing your
happiness with others.
8. You
Are Frequently Forced To Sacrifice Your Happiness. –
Life
is all about choice.
We
make sacrifice to move ahead in life; we make sacrifice to choose what we want
to be, where we want to be, who we want to be and all that.
But,
if you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you
will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.
Know
when to close the account.
It’s
always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly
requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.
9. You
Truly Dislike Your Current Situation, Routine, Job, etc. –
If
what you are doing at the present does not reflect the real you? you honestly
need to do a rethink
If
your current jobs sucks and always gives you headache and heartache when you
think of it, but you still keep at it because you have to put food on the
dinner table, then you need to do a serious rethink
It’s
better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something
you truly and thoroughly hate.
Don’t
let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after
yours.
The
best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.
Take
risks.
Don’t
just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might
happen.
If
you do, nothing will ever happen.
Chances
must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.
It
might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth
every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.
10. You
Catch Yourself Obsessing Over, And Living In, The Past. –
There
is no one without a past and though the past may have positive and negative
aspects but the one that comes knocking on the door of our heart most of the
time is the negative aspects of the past.
It
always comes to make us not to forget how we had been hurt, what shame we felt,
how discomforting it was then and all those negatives.
But
if we have chosen to move on, then we must shield the door of our hearts with a
concretized protector so that even when the negatives come knocking, it shall
meet a stone brick and we are not able to hear it's knock.
Eventually
you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who
caused the pain.
Eventually
you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control
or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your
experiences over the course of time.
After
all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life,
which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.
So
let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of
new relationships and priceless experiences.
And
the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you
deserve and keep pushing forward. Someday all the pieces will come
together and on that day, you would understand why things had to happen the way
they happened.
Unimaginably
good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out
exactly the way you had anticipated.
And
you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How
did I get through all of that?”
Until I come your way
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WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF with additional texts by Dr. OGUZIE JERRY - THE FIRST
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