Friday 23rd March 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
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#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 191
Title: How Do You Bounce Back
In Life When You Are Down In The Dumps?
You were brought up in a comfortable home and did not know what it meant to lack
or be deprived of the basic necessities of life and you have held unto that
belief for a long time and then somewhere along the route of life, things took
a different turn and suddenly you find yourself right at the bottom, you
neither bargained nor asked for it but it just happened.
So, It’s slowly dawning on you.
Unlike what you thought when you were a
rosy-cheeked kid, life isn’t one constant upward ride.
It’s full of ups and downs, twists and turns.
But the victory in it all is that for the
upwardly mobile person, you simply have to rise from a fall, you have to become
an expert at bouncing back from the downs and navigating those turns again.
Here are 12
Hacks for Bouncing Back in Life try them for size.
1. Accept the reality of your situation
If you’re in the middle of bad circumstances,
it’s time to do away with any kind of denial you might have and really
see what is happening.
Peel back whatever intense emotions – fear,
anger, sorrow – that are wrapped up in the problem and look at it for what it
truly is.
If you don’t get very honest with yourself
about your circumstances, you’ll spend a lot of time and effort maintaining a
façade that will only come tumbling down later and make the problem much worse.
2. Recognize that change is a constant
You fight change.
You expend a lot of energy trying to keep
things the same in your life.
Guess what? It’s time to realize that change
is one of the few things that stays constant. It’s always going to be in your
life.
So, if it’s a normal, consistent part of life,
why struggle with it?
Why not expect it and look for the
opportunities it brings rather than dread its arrival?
3. Use self-compassion
It’s okay to be nice to yourself.
In fact, research shows that being
self-compassionate improves both physical, mental, and emotional health.
Kristin Neff the pioneering researcher in the
field of self-compassion, suggests these three components to improve your
ability to treat yourself kindly:
a.) Be aware of your inner criticisms. If you
wouldn’t talk that way to your best friend, don’t talk to yourself like that.
b.) Because we experience our thoughts and
feelings in isolation – within our own bodies and minds – we tend to think we
are the only ones who have particular flaws and
weaknesses.
Remember that you are part of a larger group –
the human race. We all have flaws, we all make
mistakes.
So, the next time you notice that you are
beating yourself up about something, remember that, as a human being, you are
bound to have at least a few deficiencies! Let it go.
c.) Be mindful. Notice your thoughts and
feelings, but have no judgment about them. Just note what they are and
don’t add to their impact by thinking how they should be.
4. Let it go
Resiliency requires flexibility and openness
in order to problem-solve most efficiently and be aware of new opportunities.
Holding on tightly to a belief, behavior, or
material object only drains your energy and narrows your focus onto that
object.
Then your ability to see outside of yourself
and your situation is drastically reduced.
Practice by noticing when you feel tense and
stressed and then consciously letting go of whatever you were just thinking
about.
5. Create a tribe
It’s vital to have friends and family who can
rally around you in an emergency.
Make sure you have a good, stable tribe at
your disposal.
6. Develop post-traumatic growth
When people experience trauma, a small number
develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, the majority bounce back naturally
after a month or so, and the remaining people actually grow
and benefit from the experience.
How is this done? The essentials are being
optimistic and looking for the lessons in their lives. Give
it a try.
7. View things from different perspectives
Although the crisis in front of you may look
dire, ask yourself if there is another way to look at it.
Might it actually open up opportunities for
you?
Are you magnifying it unnecessarily?
8. Rely on past experience
Remember that you’ve made it through tough times before.
It’s really easy to get so involved in your
current situation that it seems like the biggest thing
in your life. Ever.
But, unless you’ve led a charmed life, you
have had other difficulties that you’ve come through and here you are now to
talk about it.
Take heart from the knowledge that you got
through adversity before and you very likely will again.
9. Give yourself a break
It’s important to refresh both your body and
mind so take a break now and then.
Some researchers call these “psychological
timeouts” – a way to restore yourself by getting away from the intense emotions
that often come along with problems.
And remember that it’s okay to distract
yourself from mental and emotional experiences like grief and rumination, too.
You could use a break. Go do something fun.
See a movie, and climb with friends, laugh, have some coffee.
Really. It’s okay.
10.
You don’t have to like what’s
happening
Somehow this idea of accepting your situation
has taken on the added implication that you must also like what you accept.
Nobody said that.
You can be accepting, open, and flexible while
at the same time acknowledging that the problem sucks.
11.
Look up
This is so simple it may seem silly, but
actually looking up every once in awhile can be just what is needed in times of
trouble.
Because we tend to look down a lot, we can get
very focused on our feet, the desk, or whatever is directly in front of us.
This physical focus mirrors our internal
focus.
When you take a moment to look up, you’ll
notice a lot of things you haven’t seen for awhile.
The interesting architecture on that building.
The different shades of gray and white in
those clouds.
The birds who seem to balance miraculously on
that wire.
And, as your attention expands to take in the
things above you, your internal focus will expand, too.
You’ll start to get new ideas and new angles
on where you are right now in life.
Next time you feel yourself staring at the
ground, look up.
12.
Be kind to others
Commit random acts of kindness.
Science has shown that helping others creates
positive emotions actually creates physical changes in your body that expand
your sense of possibilities in the world – the idea that there is more than one
way to get through your current crisis.
Problem-solving a situation becomes much
easier and you’ll find that positive emotions help exponentially with your
ability to bounce back.
So look for opportunities to help
others, especially when you feel like you’re the one
needing help.
Until I come your way again,
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