Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First - Episode 264/How to Get Up Right Away When Your Alarm Goes Off
Tuesday 5th June 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
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#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 264
Title: How to Get Up Right Away When Your
Alarm Goes Off
When your alarm wakes you up in the morning, is
it hard for you to get up right away? Do you find yourself hitting the
snooze button and going right back to sleep?
That used to be part of my daily awakening
ritual too. When my alarm would blare its infernal noise,
I’d turn the damned thing off right away.
Then under the cloak of that early morning brain
fog, I’d slowly ponder whether or not I should actually get up:
It’s nice and warm under the covers. If I
get up, it’s going to be cold. That won’t be too pleasant.
Oh, I really should get up now. C’mon
legs… move.
Go, legs, go. Hmmm… that isn’t how I
move my legs, is it? They don’t seem to be listening to me.
I should go to the gym. Yeah. Hmmm…
I don’t really feel like working out right now though. I haven’t even had
breakfast. Maybe I should have a muffin first. Banana nut.
Now that’s a good muffin.
Maybe I’m trying to get myself up too early.
I’m still sleepy, aren’t I? Maybe getting up with an alarm is unnatural.
Won’t I function better with more sleep?
I don’t have to get up right this minute, do
I?
Surely I can relax another five minutes or
so.
The world isn’t going to end if I don’t get up right
now.
I’ll bet my wife is toasty warm right now.
She told me she hates it when I try to snuggle her at 6am, but so what…
she loves me enough to forgive me, right? I know… I’ll start
massaging her back and shoulders first. She can’t resist a good massage,
even so early in the morning. Then I’ll transition to a head scratching.
Yeah, that’ll do it. And then slide right into the spoon position.
Won’t that be a pleasant way to start the
day?
[ Scootch… scootch… Zzzzzzzz ]
Two hours later…
Me: What time is it? I don’t even
remember the alarm going off. That was a good snuggle though.
Oh well, guess I’ll have to skip exercise today.
Wife: Why do you keep setting your alarm
if you aren’t going to get up when it goes off?
Me: Oh, did you think that was my wake-up
alarm?
It’s actually my snuggle alarm.
OK, so I wasn’t really intending for it to be a snuggle
alarm. I had intended to get up when it went off, but my foggy brain kept
negotiating me right back to sleep.
Fast forward to present day…
My alarm goes off sometime
between 4:00 and 5:00am… never later than 5:00am, even on
weekends and holidays. I turn off the alarm within a few seconds.
My lungs inflate with a deep breath of air, and
I stretch my limbs out in all directions for about two seconds. Soon my
feet hit the floor, and I find myself getting dressed while my
wife snoozes on. I go downstairs to grab a
piece of fruit, pop into my home office to catch up on some emails, and then
it’s off to the gym at 5:15.
But this time there’s no voice inside my head debating
what I should do. It’s not even a positive voice this time — it’s just
not there.
The whole thing happens on autopilot, even
before I feel fully awake mentally. I can’t say it requires any
self-discipline to do this every morning because it’s a totally conditioned response.
It’s like my conscious mind is just along for
the ride while my subconscious controls my body. When my alarm goes off
each morning, I respond just like Pavlov’s dogs. It would actually be
harder for me not to get up when my alarm goes off.
So how do you go from scenario one to scenario two?
First, let’s consider the way most people tackle
this problem — what I consider the wrong way.
The wrong way is to try using your conscious willpower
to get yourself out of bed each morning.
That might work every once in a while, but
let’s face it — you’re not always going to be thinking straight the moment your
alarm goes off. You may experience what I call the fog of brain.
The decisions you make in that state won’t
necessarily be the ones you’d make when you’re fully conscious and alert.
You can’t really trust yourself… nor should you.
If you use this approach, you’re likely to fall into
a trap. You decide to get up at a certain time in advance, but then you
undo that decision when the alarm goes off. At 10pm you decide
it would be a good idea to get up at 5am.
But at 5am you decide it would be a
better idea to get up at 8am. But let’s face it — you know the 10pm decision
is the one you really want implemented… if only you could get your
am self to go along with it.
Now some people, upon encountering this
conundrum, will conclude that they simply need more discipline. And
that’s actually somewhat true, but not in the way you’d expect.
If you want to get up at 5am,
you don’t need more discipline at 5am. You don’t need
better self-talk. You don’t need two
or three alarm clocks scattered around the room.
And you don’t need an advanced alarm that includes technology from
NASA’s astronaut toilets.
You actually need more discipline when you’re fully
awake and conscious: the discipline to know that you can’t trust yourself
to make intelligent, conscious decisions the moment you first wake up.
You need the discipline to accept that you’re
not going to make the right call at 5am. Your 5am coach is
no good, so you need to fire him.
What’s the real solution then? The
solution is to delegate the problem. Turn the whole thing over to your
subconscious mind. Cut your conscious mind out of the loop.
Now how do you do this? The same way you
learned any other repeatable skill. You practice until it becomes rote.
Eventually your subconscious will take over and run the script on
autopilot.
This is going to sound really stupid, but it works.
Practice getting up as soon as your alarm goes off. That’s right —
practice. But don’t do it in the morning. Do it during the day when
you’re wide awake.
Go to your bedroom, and set the room conditions
to match your desired wake-up time as best you can.
Darken the room, or practice in the evening just
after sunset so it’s already dark. If you sleep in pajamas, put on your
pajamas. If you brush your teeth before bed, then brush your teeth.
If
you take off your glasses or contacts when you sleep,
then take those off too.
Set your alarm for a few minutes ahead.
Lie down in bed just like you would if you were sleeping, and close your
eyes. Get into your favorite sleep position. Imagine it’s early in
the morning… a few minutes before your desired wake-up time.
Pretend you’re actually asleep. Visualize
a dream location, or just zone out as best you can.
Now when your alarm goes off, turn it off as
fast as you can. Then take a deep breath to fully inflate your lungs, and
stretch your limbs out in all directions for a couple seconds… like you’re
stretching during a yawn. Then sit up,
plant your feet on the floor, and stand up. Smile a big smile. Then
proceed to do the very next action you’d like to do upon waking. For me
it’s getting dressed.
Now shake yourself off, restore the pre-waking conditions,
return to bed, reset your alarm, and repeat. Do this over and over and
over until it becomes so automatic that you run through the whole ritual
without thinking about it. If you
have to subvocalize any of the steps (i.e. if
you hear a mental voice coaching you on what to do), you’re not there yet.
Feel free to devote several sessions over a
period of days to this practice. Think of it like doing sets and reps at
the gym. Do one or two sets per day at different times… and perhaps 3-10
reps each time.
Yes, it will take some time to do this, but that
time is nothing compared to how much time you’ll save in the long run. A
few hours of practice today can save you hundreds of hours each year.
With enough practice — I can’t give you an accurate
estimate of how long it will take because it will be different for everyone —
you’ll condition a new physiological response to the sound of your alarm.
When your alarm goes off, you’ll get up automatically without even
thinking about it.
The more you run the pattern, the stronger it
will become. Eventually it will be uncomfortable not to get up when
your alarm goes off. It will feel like putting on your pants with
the opposite leg first.
You can also practice mentally if you’re good at
visualizing. Mental practice is faster, but I think it’s best to run
through the whole thing physically.
There are subtle details you might miss if
you only rehearse mentally, and you want your subconscious to capture the real
flavor of the experience. So if you do use mental practice,
at least do it physically the first few times.
The more you practice your wake-up ritual, the deeper
you’ll ingrain this habit into your subconscious.
Alarm goes off -> get up immediately.
Alarm goes off -> get up immediately.
Alarm goes off -> get up immediately.
Once this becomes a daily habit, you won’t have
to do anymore daytime practice. This type of habit is self-reinforcing.
You only have to go through the conditioning period once. Then
you’re
basically set for life until you decide to
change it.
Even if you fall out of the habit for some reason
(like an extended vacation in a different time zone), you’ll be able to return
to it more easily. Think of it like muscle memory. Once
you’ve grooved in the pattern, it will still be there
even if you let some weeds grow over it.
Any behavior pattern you experience when your alarm
goes off will become self-reinforcing if you repeat it enough times.
Chances are that you already have a well-established wake-up ritual, but
it may not be the one you want. The more you
repeat your existing pattern, the more you condition
it into your subconscious.
Every time you fail to get up when your
alarm goes off, that becomes ever more your default physiological response.
If you want to change that behavior, you’ll need to undertake a
conscious reconditioning program such as the one I described
above.
Beating yourself up about your bad wake-up
habits will not work — in fact, you’ll just condition these mental beatings as
part of the very routine you’re trying to change. Not only will you not get
up when your alarm goes off, but you’ll also
automatically beat yourself up about it.
How lame is that? Do you really want
to keep running that dumb pattern for the rest of your life?
That’s exactly what will happen if you
don’t condition a
more empowering pattern. For good or ill,
your habits will make or break you.
Once you establish your desired wake-up ritual,
I recommend you stick with it every single day — 7 days a week, 365 days a
year.
And for the first 30 days, set your alarm for
the same time every day.
Once the habit is established, then you can vary
your wake-up times or occasionally go without the alarm if you want to sleep
in, but until then it’s best to keep the pattern very tight. That
way it will become your default behavior, and you’ll
be able to stray from time to time without serious risk of deconditioning it.
I’m confident that once you establish this
habit, you’ll absolutely love it. I consider this to be one my most
productive habits. It saves me hundreds of hours a year, and it keeps
paying dividends day after day. I also found this habit extremely
valuable during my polyphasic sleep experiment.
Think about it — if you oversleep just 30
minutes a day, that’s 180+ hours a year. And if you’re at 60 minutes a
day, that’s 365 hours a year, the equivalent of nine 40-hour weeks.
That’s a lot of time! Now I don’t know about you, but I can think of
more creative things to do with that time than lying in bed longer than I need
to.
I encourage you to give this method a try.
I know it seems silly to practice getting out of bed, but hey, what if it
works? What if you knew with total certainty that if you set your alarm
for a
certain time, you would absolutely get up at
that time no matter what?
There’s no reason you can’t create that for
yourself over the next few days.
Practice makes permanent.
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