Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First - Episode 304/How to be THE LUCKIEST GUY ON THE PLANET in 4 Easy Steps
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#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 304
Title: How to be THE
LUCKIEST GUY ON THE PLANET in 4 Easy Steps
I told my dad, “I’m a lucky
guy.” He said, “But are you lucky in love?” I was six years old.
Love was the most disgusting
thing in the world to me. What the hell was he talking about?
Love was living in another
neighborhood at that time. Or another planet.
It would be years before Love
stuck its ugly little nose into my house and said, “Hello, anyone here?"
Luck was all about rolling the
dice.
Or finding a quarter on the
ground.
Or seeing a double rainbow after
a quick storm.
But now I’m different. I’m
constantly checking in and out of the Hospital of No Luck. I'm older. I need
luck to be constantly transfused into me or I run out of it.
Without luck, I’m dead.
For me, good luck equals
happiness.
On a scale of happiness from 0
to 10, I think I’m about a seven or eight.
But that’s a big improvement.
When I was lying on the
floor here, I was probably about a zero. Or at different points in
history, I was maybe at negative. So I’m trending upwards.
I get lucky when I stick to
three simple goals:
My Only Three Goals in Life
A) I want to be happy.
B) I want to eradicate unhappiness in my life.
C) I want every day to be as smooth as possible.
No hassles.
That’s it. I’m not asking for
much. I need simple goals, or else I can’t achieve them.
There’s been at least ten times
in my life that everything seemed so low I felt like I would never achieve the
above three things and the world would be better off without me.
Other times I felt like I was
stuck at a crossroads and would never figure out which road to take.
Each time I bounced back.
When I look back at these times
now I realize there was a common thread. Each time there were four things,
and only four things, that were always in place in order for me to bounce back.
Now I try to incorporate these
four things into a daily practice so I never dip low again.
The Daily Practice
A) Physical –
being in shape. Doing some form
of exercise.
In 2003 I woke up at 5 a.m.
every day and from 5-6 a.m. I played “Round the World” on a basketball court
overlooking the Hudson River.
Every day (except when it
rained).
Trains would pass and people at
5:30 a.m. would wave to me out the window.
Now I try to do yoga every day.
But its hard.
All you need to do, minimally,
is exercise enough to break a sweat for 10 minutes.
So about 20-30 minutes worth of
exercise a day.
This is not to get “ripped” or
“shredded”.
But just to be healthy.
You can’t be happy if you aren’t healthy.
Also, spending this time helps
your mind better deal with its daily anxieties.
If you can breathe easy when
your body is in pain then it's easier to breathe during difficult situations.
Here’s other things that are a
part of this but a little bit harder:
Wake up by 4-5 a.m. every day.
Go to sleep by 8:30-9. (Good to
sleep 8 hours a night!)
No eating after 5:30 p.m. Can’t
be happy if indigested at night.
B) Emotional–
If someone is a drag on me, I
cut them out. If someone lifts me up, I bring them closer.
Nobody is sacred here. When the
plane is going down, put the oxygen mask on your face first. Family, friends,
people I love – I always try to be there for them and help.
But I don’t get close to anyone
bringing me down. This rule can’t be broken.
Energy leaks out of you if someone is draining you. And I never
owe anyone an explanation. Explaining is draining.
Another important rule: always be
honest. It's fun. Nobody is honest anymore and people are
afraid of it.
Try being honest for a day
(without being hurtful). It's amazing where the boundaries are of how honest
one can be. It's much bigger than I thought.
A corollary of this is: I never do anything I don’t want to do.
Like I NEVER go
to weddings.
C) Mental
–
Every day I write down ideas.
I write down so many ideas that
it hurts my head to come up with one more. Then I try to write down five more.
The other day I tried to write
100 alternatives kids can do other than go to college, I wrote down
eight which I wrote about here. I couldn’t come up with anymore.
Then the next day I came up with
another 40. It definitely stretched my head.
No ideas today? Memorize all the
legal 2 letter words for Scrabble. .
Need ideas for lists of ideas?
Come up with 30 separate
chapters for an “autobiography." Try to think of 10 businesses you can
start from home (and be realistic how you can execute them).
Give me 10 ideas of directions
this blog can go in.
Think of 20 ways Obama can
improve the country.
List every productive thing you
did yesterday (this improves memory also and gives you ideas for today).
The “idea muscle” atrophies
within days if you don’t use it. Just like walking. If you don’t use your legs
for a week, they atrophy.
You need to exercise the idea
muscle. It takes about 3-6 months to build up once it atrophies. Trust me on
this.
D) Spiritual-
I feel that most people don’t
like the word “spiritual." They think it means “god." Or
“religion." But it doesn’t.
I don’t know what it means
actually.
But I feel like I have a
spiritual practice when I do one of the following:
Pray (doesn’t matter if
I’m praying to a god or to dead people or to the sun or to a chair in front of
me – it just means being thankful. And not taking all the credit, for just a
few seconds of the day).
Meditate – Meditation for
more than a few minutes is hard. It’s boring.. You can also meditate for 15
seconds by really visualizing what it would be like meditate for 60 minutes.
Here’s a simple meditation: sit in a chair, keep the back straight, watch
yourself breathe. If you get distracted, no problem. Just pull yourself back to
your breath. Try it for 5 minutes. Then six.
Being grateful –
I try to think of everyone in my life I’m grateful for. Then I try to
think of more people. Then more. It's hard.
Forgiving – I picture
everyone who has done me wrong. I visualize gratefulness for them (but not
pity).
Studying- If I read
a spiritual text (doesn’t matter what it is: Bible, Tao Te Ching, anything Zen related, even inspirational
self-help stuff, doesn’t matter) I tend to feel good. This is not as powerful
as praying or meditating (it doesn’t train your mind to cut out the BS) but it
still makes me feel good.
My own experience: I can never
achieve the three “simple” goals on a steady basis without doing the above
practice on a daily basis.
And every time I’ve
hit bottom (or close to a bottom, or I’ve been at some sort of crossroads) and
started dong the above 4 items (1991, 1995, 1997, 2002, 2006, 2008) magic would happen:
The
Results
A)
Within about one month, I’d notice coincidences start to happen. I’d start
to feel lucky. People would smile at me more.
B)
Within three months the ideas would really start flowing, to the
point where I felt overwhelming urges to execute the ideas.
C)
Within six months, good ideas would start flowing, I’d begin executing
them, and everyone around me would help me put everything together.
D) Within
a year my life was always completely different. 100% upside down from the
year before. More money, more luck, more health, etc.
And then I’d get lazy and stop
doing the practice. And everything falls apart again. But now I’m trying to do
it every day.
It's hard to do all of this
every day.
Nobody is perfect.
I don’t know if I’ll do all of
these things today.
But I know when I do it, it
works.
Until I come your way
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This is beautiful. Meditation, Smiles. Thanks
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