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Morning Vibes With Dr Jerry The First-Episode 134/Learn To Say No!





Thursday                       25th January 2018

Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First

Hello and welcome to #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 134

Title:          Learn To Say No! It Is For Your Own Good.

If you are a people pleaser. It’s hard for you to say "no" to people who ask for something -- despite a reluctance inside of you, then this is for you.

Saying yes all the time even when deep inside of you, you are screaming no must have gotten you into trouble more than a few times in your life and especially in your career or business or even profession.

Time is precious like you know and slips by quickly but there is also no lack of things that have to get done in anyone's life.

If you have lived all these years a day at a time, with lots of dreams but no goals to actualize them; you just woke up each day hoping for something more, then it's time for you to realize that nothing will ever happen until YOU do something. It is time for you to wake up and begin to chase the dream of your life.

And this means that you have do a technical and thorough review of your life and its pattern right now in order to create the discipline you need to achieve your dreams.

One of the most important things you then need to do is to learn to say to NO to situations, circumstances and people who generate them.

Remember the adage that says "Nothing goes for nothing?" well, if you really want to break free in 2018, then something simply has to give. You have to learn to say no to things that have not helped you in times past in order to open up room for the things that are more important and precious.

Here are six things you need to say NO to.

You would see that saying no would help you live a much better life and create the kind of business that you love.

1. Other People’s Baggage.

Life is hard for all of us. Sometimes it’s easier to push your baggage onto someone else, maybe even without you realizing it.

If you are trying to make changes in your life and someone reacts a certain way because of their baggage, it’s up to you to say "no".

You don’t need any more drama in your life.

Refusing to carry other people's baggage could include ignoring some people on social media and purging negative people from your life.

It could mean ending the business partnerships that were not in alignment with the direction you are taking your business.

2. Situations That You Know Would Make You Angry.

There are things in life that you know you don’t want to do. but for years, you just rolled with them.

You went to gatherings and hung out with people who you knew would make you angry.

You got on "get-to-know-you" calls with entrepreneurs who were all talk and no action.

You entered into collaborations with business owners that weren't serious.

You did all these, just to keep up the front and not to be regarded as a snob.

Well, this is 2018, time to pull down all pretentious fronts

Free your mind and get focused on building a better you by saying No to uninteresting and non-beneficial hang outs, networking events, calls and messages that lead to no where

Do this and lift a weight off of your shoulders.

3. A Job or Business That You Absolutely Hate.

Yes, it's true that the economy is in tatters and so people who are supposed to be engaged are finding it difficult to get jobs, but then that is no excuse or reason for you to hang onto a job you love to hate with a passion, it is not doing you any good.

You might think that leaving that job would bring you to death's doorsteps but what if the reverse is the case?

What if leaving that job could actually be the beginning of your life?

What if leaving that job would bring back the creative juices in you and make you even defeat yourself?

If you hate your job and instead of being happy at work, you are more conscious of time to go back home than what the work is all about? you are harming yourself and with time, that job will kill you.

So, kill that job you hate before it kills you

And for you in business, has your business nosedived, taking a turn for the worse? are you still hanging in there, hoping that a miracle would happen? Do you feel stuck?

Do something new in 2018, if one business has failed you, don't linger over it, find another niche, find another platform, build another business but learn to say No to the things that made the first business collapse in the first place

4. Unhealthy Habits That Felt Good.

We all love food don't we now?.

So you love food and because you have no time to cook and eat a nice home made meal, you are hooked on to junk food and carbonated drinks? They tell you that you have no healthier choices.

And then peradventure in a weekend hang out with your friends, you drink alcohol like fish in the water and eat whole chicken all to tell yourself that life is lived once?

Well, it takes at least 9 months for us to know the result of a Feb 14 hangout between a guy and a girl, but for most people becoming rotund is a consequence of not making healthier choices over food and drinks.

The man will the bulging belly may be deceiving himself that it is evidence of good living but I tell you, a protruding belly in  a man who is not carrying a pregnancy is the evidence of an unhealthy choice over food and drinks.

In this 2018, say no to unhealthy choices in food and drinks and start exercising, losing those extra pounds would definitely give you  more energy, focus and confidence.

And Life would be much more better.

5. Toxic Relationships.

Purging negative people from your life and saying no to what they tried to project into your life would certainly lead to relief and happiness.

These relationships included romantic relationships, friendships and business connections. It may be hard, but you just have to say no.

Toxic people will keep you off track and make your life miserable and un-enjoyable.

Purge negativity from your life and business whenever it’s
possible.

6. Holding Onto The Past.

Did you have a messed up childhood that involved physical and mental abuse?.

Did the person you called your best friend be the one that actually stabbed you in the back while your enemies were chasing you?

Did your sibling take you out on a roller coaster while you thought he or she was on your side?

Have those you tried to help, turned around to accuse you of things you never imagined you could be accused of simply because someone is blackmailing them to also blackmail you?

Did the man you entered the bush to hunt, step back and tell you that you are oozing the odour of the hunted animal?

Did someone you loved with all your heart and willing to do anything for, carry you in a sack and dumped you at the refuse dump?

These demons from your past would surely threaten to destroy your present and even mess up your future.

So, there's only one thing to do in this 2018
You simply have to let go.

If you have to say no a lot more, whenever they bring their ugly heads to remind you of the past, then just do it.

You have to forgive to begin the healing process.

I don’t know what you have or are facing. I do know that to heal, you have to let go.

Just because you’re saying no right now doesn’t mean you’ll have to say no forever.

Life has seasons, and some are busier than others.

The point is to make sure you’re doing the things you want to do and that lead to the kind of life and business you want.

Don’t let other people’s motives make decisions for you.

This is your life.
This is your business.
You get to decide.
Say no to things that don’t make sense for you.
Say no to things that don’t feel right to you.
Trust your intuition.
You know whether or not you want to do something.

Don’t be pressured into saying yes.

This list is by no means exhaustive but it will be a good starting point, when you have gotten the hang of it, you can then expand it to other areas of your life and business

Until I come your way again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst

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