Wednesday 21st March 2018
Morning Vibes With Dr. Jerry - the First
Hello and welcome to
#MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst-Episode 189
Title: Deal
With These Toxic Beliefs Today
You know
our beliefs make or mar us, they are the reasons why we are either successful
at things we do or struggling to make a difference.
Just the
other day I was in a chat with one of my online friends who lives in the United
States and he gave me a wonderful testimony, not his of course but of someone
who is legally deaf, but is an incredible drummer that most people hardly
believe that he is genuinely deaf.
He said
that the deaf drummer is able to sync with other instrumentalists in their band
that it is simply amazing watching him bend his head to one side while beating
out the drums.
And my
friend confessed to envying the drummer sometimes especially as he is not able
to be as amazing as him due to the "numerous voices" making the
rounds in his head and when I inquired deeper into what kind of voices they are
and he said “You know, the voices constantly telling me that I’m not good
enough, and that the naysayers are always right and I’m always wrong,"
And there and then, I let him know that a man is
as good or as bad as he thinks and that all we do is to express in the physical
what our minds have been conditioned to believe.
At the
end of the chat session, he thanked me profusely and said he would try and be a
little up beat about himself so that he can be the real him that he ought to
be.
But the
truth is, he’s not the only one who feels this way.
Over time
I have met people who believe the worst about themselves, who suffer from the
same exact self-limiting beliefs as my online friend does.
So today,
I want to share some of these with you – the three most common self-limiting
beliefs I have come across amongst persons in contact with me and which they struggle
with, time and time again (see if you can identify with any of them):
1. “Those haters are right about
me.”
Don’t let rude people ruin you.
No matter
how much negativity is thrown at you by others, there is absolutely no need for
you to stay put and partake in the decay they choose for their own lives.
YOU
decide how your soul grows.
Because the truth is that what people say and do
to you is much more about them, than you.
People’s
reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences.
Whether
people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about
them.
I’m not
suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback. I am saying
that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally.
In most
cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or
bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your
guide.
So stay out of other people’s drama and don’t
needlessly create your own.
Instead,
imagine what would happen if you spent this entire day, and every day
hereafter, with all your energy directed toward your most positive possibilities.
Rather
than being annoyed, be amused.
Instead
of getting angry, get away.
Life is too short to argue, fight or
be negative in any way.
Count
your blessings and move on from the drama with your head held high.
2. “It’s important that all my
family and friends approve of my goals.”
Most of us are not raised to actively seek our
calling. We may not even know that we have one.
As kids,
we are seldom told we have a place in life that is uniquely ours alone.
Instead, we are encouraged to believe that our life should somehow fulfill the
expectations of others – that we should find our happiness exactly as they have
found theirs.
Rather than being taught to ask ourselves who we
are, we are trained to ask others for permission.
We are, in effect, schooled to live
other people’s versions of our lives.
Every day
is designed and developed as told to us by someone else.
And then
one day when we break free to survey our dreams, seeking to fulfill ourselves,
we see that most of our dreams have gone unfulfilled because we believed, and
those around us believed, that what we wanted for ourselves was somehow beyond
our reach.
It’s time to unlearn these lies and make
changes. It takes courage to grow wiser and become who you really
are. And today is the first day of the rest of your life.
3. “They can do it, but that
doesn’t apply to me.”
Just because someone else can, doesn’t mean you
can, right? Because you’re not good enough, or you’ve missed your chance,
etc.
You look for
reasons they can do it but you can’t – maybe he’s an internet entrepreneur or
freelance writer because he has no kids.
Maybe
she’s way fitter than I am, so she can run a marathon.
Maybe she
doesn’t have all the work and family obligations I have, or has a supportive
spouse, or doesn’t have bad knees.
OK, fine, it’s
easy to find excuses: but look at all the other people who also have
considerable obstacles and have done it anyway.
As a
person, I have dealt with significant loss in my life, and still managed to
succeed on many fronts.
And just
as I’ve turned things around for myself, I know hundreds of other people who’ve
done the same.
I have witnessed
people reinventing themselves at all ages – 48-year olds starting families,
57-year-olds graduating from college for the first time, 71-year-olds starting
successful businesses, and so forth.
And
stories abound of people with disabilities or illnesses who overcame their
obstacles to achieve great things.
Your obstacles can be overcome!
Feeling
stuck is a FEELING, not a fact.
So never assume that you’re stuck with the way things are.
Life
changes, and so can you. It’s never too late to live a life that makes
you proud.
If you
don’t learn anything else from this broadcast, learn that. There’s
no age limit on changing your course.
And of course, if you're struggling with any of
this, know that you are not alone. Many
of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more
clearly, and get our lives back on track.
Until I come your way
again, this is #MorningVibesWithDrJerryTheFirst
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